|Shady Lane Home - Clarksboro, New Jersey|
This view was much more pleasant to her but she still realized that it was a nursing home. I tried to ease her anxiety by explaining that I had researched all the homes around and that this one had the highest scores and had many recreational activities suitable to her. I'm not sure that made her feel any better.
In the end I have to say that she handled the move much better than I. After all she wasn't the only one to have memories of nursing homes. I worked for a short time in one during my nursing education and then my grandmother had spent her last years in a home. However my daughter and I had visited Shady Lane prior to the final decision and our first impressions were that this place was very promising. We were given a very nice tour and met my mother's new roommate, Irene. According to Irene, we made a good decision. She had been in another home for several years that she felt was all right, but not anywhere as nice as Shady Lane. Then we met Marge, another resident, who again emphasized that our choice of homes was the best. She too had been in other homes and found that Shady Lane was a very nice place to live as far as nursing homes were concerned.
My family accompanied my mother into her new diggs. Since it was a Saturday, no receptionist was available. However a maintenance worker saw us and led us through the dining room to the nurse's station for check in.
The first night was the hardest for me and I imagined it was for her as well. However when hubby and I went back on Sunday she seemed quite content and said that she had had a good night. I wasn't so sure as she was sitting by herself in front of a TV in the lounge with a look of resignation to her new life style. In an attempt to perk up her spirits we thought of taking her out onto the porch. The view looked very pleasant and inviting. In order to exit hubby punched in the code to release the door locks and out we went except the alarm went off and there was no other way to get back in without someone coming to fetch you. Therefore, hubby stayed in the lounge and Mom and I went out onto the porch. The screeching of the alarm and the excessive heat left our trip out on the porch as a very short session.
Hubby and I left for breakfast after a time. I returned later in the afternoon to check on her. Things were looking up as she had gone to a church service and was preparing to have lunch in the dining room. So I went on down to her room with additional items I had brought for her. I noticed all her clothes had been returned from the laundry and tagged so I hung them up. When my grandmother was in the home, we had to do all the laundry. Not so here.
After lunch Mom was inducted into the group. Irene, Marge and Dot have a sitting area in the lounge to which they all retreat during down times and when they have visitors. As we sat talking Mom excitedly introduced me to Dot sharing that she had gone to school with her. At first I thought she had Dot confused with someone else, but nope, not only did Mom go through school with Dot but my grandmother and Dot's family were friends.
By the second week my mother was settled into her routine. Marge and Irene were making sure she was participating in all the activities and not left alone. Preparations for the prom were in full gear. The day before the prom my daughter and I retrieved my mother's dress and jewelry. We must have done well as my mother recognized the dress immediately and was pleased that it was the one we had chosen. Mom was scheduled to have her hair done the day before and touched up the day of the big event.
On the day of the prom my daughter and I showed up early to make sure Mom was ready to go. By the time we arrived, she was ready and sitting with others chit chatting away.
Does this not look like a happy woman? It's a look we haven't seen in a long time and one that I've seen on her face more often then not the past two weeks.
It was time to go so we pushed Mom down the hall to the awaiting decorated dining room. As we started off we were stopped by a young lady who gave Mom a flower wristlet.
As we moved slowly along we passed her friends who looked equally happy and beautiful.
As each resident entered the dining area they paused for their pictures to be taken. Mom insisted that Lynn accompany her into the dining area.
|It was filled with Mom's favorite: Hershey Kisses!|
You can't have a prom without music and music they had!
After two weeks, my anxiety level for the decision to move Mom into a home as opposed to having her needs addressed 24/7 at home have been greatly relieved. She is happy, being well cared for and participating in the many available activities. She has not done one crossword puzzle since she entered. There's no time.
I was informed that the reason for the multiple activities was that someone left money to Shady Lane's recreational fund. I believe I shall also contribute. I don't think I've ever seen so many happy seniors at one time as I did at this Senior Prom. Whether they remember or not they had a great time during the moment!
For now have a Firecrackin Great Day!!
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